Below are two essential arenas that you and I must be in alignment with if you are to have the transformative results I expect. In fact, if you are part of a couple, we will make no progress without your alignment. If you are single, I ask that you read this page, as well. Make sure you’re in alignment with these 2 arenas for your future relationship.

I will go over these in more detail, if needed, when we have an initial consultation.

1. Do you have secrets you are actively hiding from your partner?  I have no judgments against people who have secrets. I just know that secrets block the possibility of having a truly healthy relationship. If you have a secret or two and you want to know how to get it out in the open in a healthy way, you and I can sit down to figure that out. At no time will I share confidential information with your partner until you have given me permission.

Whether we know it or not, everything is communicated on a gut-level. We know when something is amiss. If there are secrets, you will have unending conflict in your relationship. You will find you argue about everything and get nowhere. In our sessions, if there are secrets, we will make no progress. The sessions will be a waste of your time/money and a difficult process for me. [Note: “Getting nowhere in arguments is not proof that someone is keeping a secret. Other factors can create unproductive arguing.]

 If you want the freedom and trust in a relationship that comes with having no secrets, I am the professional for you.

2. If you are not treating one another with kindness and respect, are you committed to turning that around? I completely understand how easy it is to be nasty to one another. I’ve been there.

 I’ve also learned that unkind and disrespectful relating blocks the possibility of a healthy and happy relationship. We will not make progress in our sessions unless we are all committed to kind and respectful relating. Working with me, you can learn to virtually eliminate unkind interactions. If, or when, either person slips up and reverts to unkind relating, we can get back on track—as long as there is a commitment to making immediate changes.

Almost every couple that comes to me is dealing with conflict, arguing and unkind relating that they can’t seem to resolve. I am an expert in helping people resolve their conflicts. Once you learn how to turn conflict into growth and healing experiences, you and your partner will become brighter and happier people.