“I’ve been doing hypnotherapy weekly for a while now and I love it, but lately I’ve had some difficult things to deal with and I’ve been very distressed. For the last month I’ve felt numb. I’ve been irritable, trouble sleeping, I’ve felt depressed, hopeless, and scared for myself. I decided to work with Bill even though we’re friends.
In our first session we got in really deep inside my mind and heart, and made key connections to the influence of childhood. I cried my heart out. I came home and slept like a baby. I woke up feeling brand new. Full of energy and optimism. Bill is a miracle worker. I did not realize he had these gifts.”
Ms. JT, Tucson
My teens have been going to a counselor lately. I could have gone to the same one through insurance, but I’d rather pay 5 times my little co-pay and continue working with you. They were excited about counseling at first, but not now. She limits the sessions to 50 minutes and from talking to her, it appears it’s just a job to her. She doesn’t really get to the bottom of anything like you do. I am blown away with you. You are a well-kept secret in Tucson.
Ms. WE, Tucson
In some ways, you did very little. You asked a few questions, wrote down a few phrases on your whiteboard, let me talk some more and make my own realizations, say what was in my heart, and simply 'held the space' for me to have breakthrough and clarity. Because I was so distraught, and because you were so available, I spilled as much as I could in order to clear my head and mouth from all it was holding, which was like a dam breaking. Whew!!! Just THAT was profoundly healing.
I felt comfortable enough to say some ugly and mean-sounding things that were truth for me; truth that for all of my life, until then, I didn't think I could say (or FEEL!) You did not judge or emote. You simply listened and affirmed me, let me know that I am valid in my feelings, and let me sit with my own realizations and questions.
Thank you! You addressed all of my questions, showed me connections between my abandonment stuff, my fear of anger, my anger at my parents' being gone, and my need to caretake and sugarcoat. Wow!!! LOTS of stuff that made SO much sense!!!! It felt like I went into your office with a big mangled box of thousands of pieces of jewelry, all tangled up together, and came out with intact necklaces, pairs of earrings, and shining rings to wear home and begin to appreciate my beauty within, my development, and my ability to live life from a new perspective.
You said I looked lighter when I left. I FEEL lighter, wiser, more compassionate, and more able to love those that I had been feeling so much unspoken hatred and anger toward. Thank you, Bill. What I was going through would have taken me weeks or months to resolve. We did all that in about an hour! This healing has altered my life.
I will be forever grateful for that healing moment in time.
Ms. MS, Tucson
Note from Bill White:
Many years ago, my sister, Holly, thought it was miracle when her husband agreed to come to counseling. In their first session, they had the typical 50-minute session. At 50 minutes, they were in a vulnerable, tender place--in the middle of getting to the heart of something. Both were in tears. The counselor looked at his watch and told them that they need to wrap up this session. It was a shock to both of them. Her husband became angry. She knew he was never coming back and this was the end of their marriage. She was so distraught, she sat down on the curb outside the office in a public place, put her head in her hands and balled. People came by to ask if she was alright. This is the type of thing I don’t want to create in my sessions, so I leave sessions open-ended. I also rarely schedule back to back clients.